“The more you stress about things being exactly the way you want them, the more you’ll be disappointed.”
~Amanda Castellote (me)
“Contrary to popular belief, stress is not work.”
(also me… that’s right, I’m moonlighting as a philosopher… hehehe)
I don’t pretend to be a laid back person, I’m not. I’m sure if my family is reading this, they will chime in to agree. I’m learning through running my own handcrafted jewelry design business that stressing does not make things happen, work does. I guess in some way, I knew that already, but this helps me. Dictionary.com has several definitions for stress, a few about music or phonetic stresses, but mostly about physical things dealing with pressure that either strains or deforms them. These are the definitions dealing with the mechanics of things, but if you think about how stress makes you feel and who it makes you become, these definitions are fairly accurate.
The straight forward definition that we all think of was also included: physical, mental or emotional strain or tension…. (blah, blah, blah). Right before that, though, it lists this definition of stress: physiology: a specific response by the body to a stimulus, [such] as fear or pain, that disturbs or interferes with the normal physiological equilibrium of an organism. Now there we go… it interferes with our normal physiological equilibrium. Wait, what does that mean? Oh… it means we can’t function properly. I would venture to say that encompasses functioning both physically and mentally.
HOLD THE PHONE, Mandy. Nowhere in the definitions above did it say that if you stress about things, that they will happen. Where was that definition?
Folks, that definition does not exist. You can think about things and plan them (have a back-up plan) and put the plan into action. Then, the plan comes into reality, falls to your back-up plan or falls apart. When reality hits, there is not much that you can do about it. Here are your options: You do the work, have a plan B in place and succeed or fail (That’s right, I said succeed or fail. No matter how much you plan, failures will happen.) Or, you dream and then allow your image of perfection to interfere with [your] normal physiological equilibrium…
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